I understand your view, but I believe your argument focuses too much on extremes to make your point sound valid. I could argue back that bitterness and resentment have also led to wars. It may help to look at things in context. You’re trying to build an argument around a narrow perspective to downplay the value of forgiveness.

So, what do you suggest for those who are hurt but stuck in their pain? Should they live in their memories, or go back to those who hurt them and demand an apology? Be specific.

Expecting abusers to take responsibility just because someone doesn’t forgive can create a loop of hatred that serves no one.

Perhaps a broader view would help, rather than focusing on specific situations. And unless you’re a scientist or someone with extensive experience working with people who have endured pain, it may be best not to tell others what they shouldn’t do. I’m suggesting an approach through a personal view while you are forcing one through relying on history!