In some cultures like the middle east, some women are attracted to alpha males and strict husband mindsets, and it's quite the opposite of what women might move toward in the Western world. Character is a great starting point, but the attributes of a character are tough to define unless we assume that most people's preferences are similar, which is inaccurate. I think sex might play a significant but indirect role. I believe there is a big portion of women move toward a man who gives them a more secure life, and good physics might send a signal of healthy and robust genes. I think there is a diffrence between what we say in public and what we like. There is also a diffrence between what we desire and what we end up choosing or are forced to choose. I bet many women wouldn't say no to a decent-looking and sexually strong man, but it doesn't mean they will end up marrying them