This a powerful post, my friend, and I love your courage.
I want to add my two cents if you don't mind. Seeking professional help doesn't equal that one has a mental illness. It means finding a professional with no emotional attachment or biased views toward the depressed person, and the depressed person has no anger or negative emotions toward the listener. They have no love, hate relationship or previous conflicts. It's about dissecting a problem and helping others unveil their pain.
You have beautifully described the situation from the view of the person in depression, but my friend, you need to look at things from the other person's perspective as well. Most of the time, the other person doesn't have the knowledge, wisdom or capacity to deal with the pain, and even if they caused pain, most of the time, they didn't mean it intentionally.
People who want to commit suicide don't mention it; they don't talk about it; they just do it. Eight years ago, I didn't think of suicide; I just walked into an edge and wanted to throw myself without telling anyone. Yet I realized this stupid life doesn't worth that foolish attempt.
I lost my mom at 8, a broken home to the core, and had a life full of downs, yet I'm looking forward to a better life here. Some souls are stronger than others; yours is a strong one. My friend had the best childhood yet ended up on depression pills and a life full of misery.
Yes, I didn't seek a professional, but I threw fire at my father and insulted the core of our relationship; it took me years to realize that my father had no choice but to deal with life in a way that wasn't to my best interest, and everything I said was pure anger and results of personal memories I was trying to throw at my father blaming him for my misery. Today I look at his decision and I don't envy him for the life and lack of options he had in the past.
The concept of the hurt soul is unclear to many; some people might have a biological disease without knowing it. Listening to them or trying to help without proper attention, knowledge, communication, and patience can be counterproductive. I understand where you are coming from, and I love how you mentioned in the title that not "Every Suicidal Person."
People come packed with previous experiences, and not everyone can tell which person is a strong soul or a weak one. Helping others to seek professionals to get out of depression is no different than helping someone get out of addiction. I believe it's for love, not for lack of trust or care. Of course, that's only my opinion, my friend, and a great article, as always; you are brave! Excuse my lengthy two cents; they turned into 2 dollars. Cheers to your strength. Long live the queen. 👸🌹😊
